• Grumpy@sh.itjust.works
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            It’s because they have too many people messaging them. They can’t keep up. They end up being selective once again among the people who did match and invest their time into few while ghosting the rest.

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              Yeah, I know, still sucks. The current numbers I heard for tinder was 25% women, 75% men. The amount of likes a day the average woman gets must be exhausting. Online dating is just awful now.

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          I think many math from people generally suggest guys get about 0 to 1 matches per day on median. Though, average is much much higher because top very small percentage of men get a crap ton, even more so than top girls. Whereas girls usually get in teens per day for median.

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    My understanding is that tinder sorts you into categories of desirability so you’re shown people in your own bracket - I assume so hot people don’t associate the product with ugmos.

    By saying tinder is filled with ugmos kinda tells on yourself, doesn’t it?

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      That sounds like a relatively new feature.

      The last time I tried Tinder (Tindr, straight people Grindr), it made me both give up on online dating and lose a bit of faith in humanity.

      I’ve rarely been the victim of online harassment or trolling but holy hell - being an attractive woman on Tindr? Absolute win. Pretty much easy mode on any dating site in general.

      Being an attractive man of the same caliber? Yeeehck. Holy shit, some people have absolutely miniscule egos and more time than proper sense. I won’t share personal incidents or examples here because I’d rather just forget and leave it all in the past.

      I went right back to traditional meat-space and in-the-flesh dating. Fuck this noise about online profiles and photography. Let your neighbors find out who you are on their own terms, don’t shout it at them from the rooftops.

      I ended up “settling” (not my opinion) on a girl with a golden soul that I met traditionally, through a friend of a friend. She’s not the best looker, but if the algorithm works as you say, I’d never have even met her, which is a shame. We’ve been together for eight years now, and I still adore her.

      So yeah, in summary, fuck Tindr.

      <3

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        Straight people Grindr

        I can assure that gay people also know what Tinder is.

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      Is this a new thing? I’ve always had a lot of variety, but haven’t used it in ages.

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        Na, early on in tinders existence they accidentally emailed people their desirability scores. It’s kinda like an ELO score.

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        More and more I feel it’s best to think of software as existing in a quantum state of all possible feature/bug combinations. Between updates that can occur on any facet of the software’s intricacies, algorithm quirks, human interventions, and clandestine beta testing on unsuspecting groups of users, who the fuck knows.