A new South Dakota Board of Regents policy keeps employees from including their gender pronouns in school email signatures and other correspondence.

  • BumpingFuglies@lemmy.zip
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    4 months ago

    Please don’t do this. This is just misgendering by default. The vast majority of people are exactly the gender they appear to be on the surface, and if they aren’t, they’ll let you know. I’ve only known one person who wasn’t the gender they appeared (a very masculine-presenting enby), and they weren’t offended at all when I misgendered them at first; they corrected me, I apologized, and that was the end of it.

    However, if you call the wrong clearly-masculine “alpha male” or clearly-feminine “queen bitch” they/them, you’re likely to get a violent reaction.

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      4 months ago

      Gross. You care more about preserving the delicate feelings of bigoted snowflakes than actual vulnerable people.

      It’s not misgendering if you use non-gendered language. Non-gendered language is not gendered. Grammatical gender is idiotic and we’d be better off without it.

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        4 months ago

        English is my primary language, so yes, I’m aware of the historical use of they/them as a non-gendered pronoun for hypothetical people.

        I’m also aware of the fluid nature of language. I’m still salty about “literally” becoming its own antonym, but I have to accept it because it’s now part of English.

        That being said, it’s never been socially acceptable to use they/them for a known person of a binary gender, and I’d argue that it’s even less acceptable now, thanks to the common adoption of they/them as a personal pronoun for known persons of nonbinary gender.

        It’d be much less confusing if there was an entirely new pronoun for enbies. Or, better yet, if there were never any gendered pronouns to begin with. But this is the world we live in, and we all have to find the best way to navigate our own paths without kicking up dirt onto others’.

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          I’m sympathetic to what you’re saying but there’s a part I just can’t get on board with at all. I don’t know if it’s just that I come from a really different society to your one or what is going on here, but this paragraph doesn’t ring true to me at all:

          it’s never been socially acceptable to use they/them for a known person of a binary gender, and I’d argue that it’s even less acceptable now, thanks to the common adoption of they/them as a personal pronoun for known persons of nonbinary gender.

          It’s totally socially acceptable where I am to call people “they”, or at least it always has been.

          Didn’t mean to insinuate anything about your English btw; in my experience most native English speakers don’t have much interest in historical useage or etymology. Formal English style guides have only come on board with singular “they” in the last 15-20 years despite everyone using it colloquially for decades and decades.