My girlfriend says she doesn’t like that I don’t work and don’t do anything to “develop myself”. I have passive income that’s more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn’t want to get a job because I don’t have one, and that annoys her that I’ll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.
I told her that I’m not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I’m just sitting at home.
I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.
I told her that I’m willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.
I’m assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?
I mean, expecting someone to jump into working for someone else just for show is bullshit. Why the fuck would you want to go backwards just for an empty paycheck you don’t need? Even if your passive income is from a shitty source, that still doesn’t mean you have to just take a fucking job.
Now, if she had said something else, like maybe finding interests that fulfill you, that would be at least reasonable. But the way you’ve described it here, she be trippin.
If she’s not fulfilled by her job enough to want to go do it regardless of necessity, why the fuck should anyone else?
If you were asking who’s the asshole, it would be her.
But this isn’t “am I the asshole” it’s c/relationshipadvice
My advice?
Be blunt about it. Say up front that you have no desire to chase after a job just for the sake of working. If that’s not okay by her, she knows where the door is.