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  • BoulevardBlvd@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoRelationship Advice@lemmy.world•I feel really hurt my s/o left me alone on my birthday when i told him before to not bother meEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Yes. And the world is telling you back that at best you are awful at being in a relationship and at worst you’re a manipulative monster. You pick, I don’t know you but those are the only options.

    Participating in a relationship with other people is a skill. Even you must admit that you’re bad at it (otherwise you’d have friends). I know you came here for feedback on him but the fact of the matter is you’ve told us nothing about him. Only about you, and how you felt. We’ve got no clue whether he was reacting appropriately. You won’t tell us what the fight was about. So the only thing we see is you being a complete Trainwreck.

    Seriously. You lack fundamental, basic understanding of how relationships work, probably because your parents are horrible people so you’ve never seen what healthy is. That’s their fault for not modeling good behaviour, but it’s your problem to fix. And you need to do it soon.

    People thought you were a child here because you’re acting like one.

    As others have said, no. In no uncertain terms do you have any right to be angry he did what you asked him to do. The fact that you think otherwise is a maaaaaaaassive bloody crimson red flag. Genuinely, you need a therapist. You’re not going to figure out how fucked up you are on your own, and you’re not going to invent mental health whole cloth out of nowhere.

    Genuinely, if you were my friend, I’d be forcing you into an intervention right now. If you ever want to live a happy life, you need to unlearn all this toxic bullshit you’ve picked up from somewhere as a kid because if you go on acting like this you will NEVER find joy. I’m sorry the world fucked you. Now choose to be better or choose to stay terrible.

    Oh also, good men don’t put up with people like you. He’s definitely an asshole. I’ve just got no idea what kind.