apotheotic (she/her)

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  • Its both, except in the case of this post where the person is clearly being snarky and trying to put this woman down.

    Most mansplaining is a man trying to be helpful. The issue arises in that they try to be helpful in situations where, if it was another man, they wouldn’t try to be helpful, because they’d assume the man already knew the thing.

    An obviously stretched out example, but, if someone was dreadfully thirsty and I, out of the absolute kindness of my heart, tried to offer them advice like “Gosh, that sounds awful. I’m so sorry. Have you tried drinking water? I’ve been thirsty before and water always fixes me right up”, I’m sure we’d all agree this is misplaced advice and probably reflects on my perception (or presumptions) of their intelligence.



  • For those more sensitive areas you want to make sure you’re getting a razor body where the blade doesn’t protrude as far. Henson shavers are incredible quality but I dont remember if they have a razor body suited for body hair.

    The idea with these razors is to not apply much pressure, just letting the weight of the razor itself do the pressing. As long as youre doing that, and not holding it at a stupid angle, you should find it quite difficult to hurt yourself shaving your head. Same goes for your pubes, but if you’re going to shave your balls with it you’ll need to take a lot of care.



  • Except etiquette extends beyond just “common social etiquette”. Using a knife and fork the “correct way” is etiquette. Eating soup by scooping the spoon away from oneself is etiquette. Placing your cutlery the correct way on the dish when you’re finished is etiquette and varies wildly by country. These are just examples of dining etiquette, there’s much more. Its all bullshit and I agree it should boil down to being respectful and mindful, but depending who raised you it may happen that you get reprimanded and punished for not following very arbitrary rules.




  • I understand your perspective but I guess I just fundamentally disagree. I’d be annoyed, in the same vein as you, if every character was poly (unless they were actually poly and they had other lovers and referenced your other lovers and it was genuinely part of their identity) or if a relationship with them wasn’t different from a close friendship, besides having sex (because sex isn’t the only thing separating a close friendship from a relationship).

    I guess, the way I approach the kind of game that we’re both talking about is just different. I’m not interested in exploring 100% of all the content possible, but rather having a rich experience in the content that I do explore. I’ll take an authentically written gay man and an authentically written straight girl who both won’t explore a relationship with me, over the opportunity to have more content that’s shallower. But yeah, again, thats just a different approach we both have to games.




  • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.orgtoComics@lemmy.mlSpoilers
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    6 days ago

    Theres plenty of rich people who want to kill trans folk too.

    I’m not arguing against there being a huge issue around the uber rich. But people were racist and homophobic and transphobic and misogynistic with every kind of class divide. It doesn’t help that the uber rich are spreading this kind of ideology, but it would exist without them.




  • Sounds like you’ve already made your mind up, but feminism is about equality. They fight for men’s wellbeing too. Moving toward an end to toxic masculinity, for example, is a big one on the objectives of the majority of feminists who actually embody feminism.

    Pointing at the word “feminism” and going “but what about meninism” is just a scapegoat to continue hating them for no reason.

    There are ““feminists”” who do not embody feminism at all: trans exclusionary radical feminists, or sex worker exclusionary radical feminists, are two examples of groups who use the name but don’t embody the values. They’re just as disgusting as any other transphobe or misogynist, honestly. But yeah, thats not feminism.

    As a feminist, one of the biggest concerns on my mind, after obvious stuff like equal opportunity and eradicating harassment, is the appallingly evident void of education, role models, and support for young men in terms of their emotional wellbeing and understanding of the world and people around them. That is an issue of concern for me as part of being a feminist, not just a general concern.