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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • You’re thinking of Rhianna and Eminem, love the way you lie,.or something like that. It’s hysterical to me that that’s the song you’re talking abt because the person who originally replied to you suggested Eminem and Dido. So. I think you just don’t like Slim Shady.



  • It’s the 10th of Stan Rawlinson’s 10 Pet Commandments:

    -Stay with me on the ultimate difficult journey. Never say, “I can’t bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence”. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, regardless of what you do I will always love you.

    What a strange, cruel policy from the vet. When I had to put my cat down, my vet had me hold her in my arms while she administered the shot, and then she left the room so it could be just me and my cat til the end. Since I decided to take her body home to bury on my parents’ property, my vet recommended that I show her to my remaining cat so that we could mourn together. She said he would understand what death meant if he got to see her, but he would be distressed more if she just disappeared.

    What a hideous policy for everyone involved, shame on this vet/shelter for so many reasons.


  • My grandpa’s life partner came into his life after my dad was an adult but before I was born, so she’s been in the family longer than I have. She never wanted to be called anything other than her first name, but by all measures, she is my grandma, and I love her. So I’ve had the typical grandma/grandpa names for mine, but I also have an Izzy, and that’s really special to me.





  • It’s called the scrub mommy because it has a soft side :)

    (I didn’t make that up, thats their advertising).

    Also it does 2x the work for less money than the scrub daddy costs. I didn’t make that up either, but it’s true, they’re cheaper, and that’s very funny.






  • Man that’s a tough one. I think you’re doing the right thing by not calling and I’m going to share an anecdote to explain why.

    My coworker was walking home late one night and encountered a homeless man. It was negative degrees outside. He wrestled with the idea of what to do because he didn’t want the cops to bother or hurt this guy. He wasn’t belligerent or bothering anyone, but my friend was worried about him because it was freezing outside. My friend decided to call 911. He wanted an ambulance to come. Instead the cops came and took the man away in handcuffs. When he was telling me the story at work the next day, he cried. He’s a big bearded stereotypical “tough guy” and I’d never personally seen him show emotion like that. He felt so bad, and he regretted calling.

    One of those drunks you see might hurt someone, but that’s on them for choosing to drive or the bartender for not calling the cops or cutting them off. Where I’m from, part of bartender certification is getting trained on how to take customers keys and when to call a cab and when to call the cops.

    A lot of words in this post to say:

    I think you’re making the right choice.

    Xx much love







  • I have similar thoughts for a solution- just don’t have any sex or gender indicators on ID cards. Have a whole separate medical card that isn’t for identification. You keep it in your wallet in case you’re ever in an emergency, and doctors will use it to know if they should treat you like an xx or an xy or something else if it so applies. It could have a list on the back where you write any current medications, so a Dr knows what interactions your body might have to any treatments. This would be useful if, for example, you’re a female presenting biologically xy Trans person who shows up unconscious in an ambulance. Then the doctor can look at that person’s card and say “I will give this person the medical care that an XY person needs” vs saying “this person’s ID card says male but they look female, should the treatment be for a man or a woman?”

    As a non medical professional I’m sure I am oversimplifying the ordeal and glossing over important points, but it’s just something I’ve thought a lot.