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Cake day: September 30th, 2023

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  • Well for the snow, I’d imagine the cleared circle is from the heat from the fire. I’d say it’s more suspicious that the chopping block has unmelted snow on it so close to the fire, but it’s also possible someone moved it into frame for the picture, which also could be why it’s more crooked. And do you never put Christmas lights outside where you are? It could very well be just a regular tree with outdoor rated lights on it.

    Not saying that it’s 100% not AI or anything, the vibe is definitely AI, just that I don’t see anything completely unreasonable in this image that gives it away.

    Edit to add: it’s a photo from 4 years ago, categorically not AI.



  • Was @pyre@lemmy.world’s comment not sufficient in this regard? If this is your first time getting misogyny defined for you, I think you need to branch out from Joe Rogan and try some media with women’s voices as a focus.

    Since you need your hand held here, this is my perspective: this comic’s humor is just perpetuating a common, incorrect stereotype that women act nice to each other but actually hate each other. The punchline is secretly “women be bitches am I right?” and I believe this because if you swapped either or both of the characters in the comic out for men, it would no longer work as a joke.

    Now funnily enough, I didn’t make my Bechdel test joke for the purpose of starting a debate with dudebros online. I’m sure you’ll find something in this comment to pick apart and continue sealioning, so here is your notice that I will not be replying further. Good luck on your journey of learning about feminism!







  • Hey buddy, I just want to say- normal people do feel. Big feelings are very normal! It’s okay to let yourself be a romantic, and it’s okay to get heartbroken sometimes too. And it’s also okay to say you need a break from dating if it’s stressing you out to much. The important thing is making sure you feel emotionally supported through any of these decisions.

    You mentioned you’re far from family. Do you have local friends that you are close with (nonromantically) who you can talk about this kind of stuff with? Men too often are left emotionally isolated in society, and it’s important that you have that kind of support outside of romantic relationships too.

    If you’re feeling ungrounded and uncertain where things are going with this woman even when you’re very excited to spend time with her, it can feel like a lot of pressure to do things “right” or not “mess it up”. That can be really hard on your self esteem when you put that kind of responsibility solely on your shoulders! Relationships are team efforts. I’d maybe try to reframe your situation from “I met this woman and she might be the one but she’s got a long distance bf and what if she chooses him over me??” to something more like “I really enjoy this woman’s company, and while she’s figuring out what her long term plan is, I’m happy to spend time with her. If her long term plans don’t align with mine by [date], we can talk about what next steps that means for us, including breaking up.”

    Whatever comes next for you, best of luck friend. You deserve people in your corner who support you enthusiastically.







  • This is true, but the larger the margin the more difficult it makes it for them to contest.

    Vote. Bring your friends and family to vote. Call up your friends in other states and make sure they have a voting plan.

    Voting won’t magically fix our broken political machine but it will help us from sliding deeper in the hole. Vote like you’re taking a stupid little walk outside for your mental health during lockdown- not the only way you should be taking care of things but important maintenance nonetheless.




  • Hi! Not strictly a lesbian here but in a lesbian relationship. Yes, lesbians have top/bottom dynamics typically in the “one doing the action” vs the “one being acted upon” across various different acts. Most switch it up (“vers”), rather than identifying primarily as tops or bottoms. If you are strictly a top or strictly a bottom, you’re described as “stone” as in “stone top” or “stone bottom”.

    Very important that these are completely different roles than dominant/submissive/switch, which are BDSM terms and describe a more psychological aspect of a relationship than the more physical top/bottom/vers.


  • growsomethinggood ()@reddthat.comtoMemes@lemmy.mlDrink it!
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    22 days ago

    Look, folks in the US are extremely on edge about this election (that’s both currently happening through early voting and the last day possible within 2 weeks), and in particular, foreign interference/propaganda. There’s a lot of crap we’re getting from every angle under the sun trying to get “the right people” to vote and “the wrong people” to stay at home, depending on the political inclination. It’s exhausting and we’re having a bad time. We know shit sucks here and we are trying our hardest to not descend further into fascism with a guy who literally admires Hitler. If we get some lightly progressive policies out of it, that’s great. By pushing some “both parties suck” propaganda in this eleventh hour, everyone is going to dog pile you because we’re sick of this so much.