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Cake day: June 8th, 2023
  • okasen@slrpnk.nettoNews@lemmy.world•New Federal Rules Protect LGBTQ People From Misgendering, Bathroom Bans
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    2 months ago

    I can see the concern, as a trans and nonbinary person, about the phrasing of the headline. Casual readers will totally think the actual guidance says “if you fuck up a person’s pronouns, you go to jail” or whatever.

    But not the guidance itself. We need more protections against intentional, malicious misgendering as verbal harassment. Which is usually less “she said— oops, they said—“ and more stuff like “(female coworker) put has pronouns in her signature? I thought she was a REAL WOMAN”

    (The second being a real example from a friends work place. Funny thing is, friend is stealth trans and the coworker being misgendered is cis, but i digress)

    But yeah all that aside I think the real context is misgendering when someone needs the bathroom, e.g. “you’re in the wrong bathroom” type comments. Where we really need stronger protections.

  • okasen@slrpnk.nettosolarpunk memes@slrpnk.net•how can something be so courageous and yet so true
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    3 months ago

    So a perspective I haven’t seen here yet: in many places, Starbucks is the only suitable third space left. I.e. place that is not work/school or home. I have non-Starbucks cafes nearby, but due to astronomical and increasing rent for all the independent cafes in walking distance, they are in smaller buildings and they can’t afford to have people sitting for hours on laptops using the WiFi/talking to friends/reading a book. I still support my local cafes for food and coffee, or really short meetings with folks, but if I need to get out of the house and spend time in public where I’m not obligated to speedrun my coffee, Starbucks is The Choice.

    And that’s why i might be inside of a Starbucks while hating capitalism. Because capitalism made Starbucks the only corporation able to afford proper cafe space.

    (There is a library nearby, yes, but not with good space for sitting down and working on a laptop. And even having THAT Is a massive privilege)

    (Also I actually do have a MacBook that I do my personal stuff on, because of various bits of software i need that are OS specific, which is annoying as heck but i got used to my work mac anyways and then found a nice one used… so yeah.)

  • okasen@slrpnk.nettoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Where do you look when applying for jobs?
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    4 months ago

    Oh I feel you on the “how do I afford living” bit. I’m a senior software engineer—arguably the career people say makes some of the best money—and I still feel broke as fuck constantly.

    (I mean I’m in the UK so it’s not Silicon Valley Monopoly money but STILL)

    Seconding the question on what kind of PT stuff you’d go for, because I often consider the same.

  • okasen@slrpnk.nettoComic Strips@lemmy.world•I've run out
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    4 months ago

    I have a few conditions that affect my spoon usage, like autism/ADHD and mild chronic fatigue. But I’m also pregnant, which means every day I put N+1 spoons into the “avoid nausea” drawer, and there’s a steadily increasing multiplier on any activity that means I have to walk places. Lately being vertical too long costs a bit o spoon.

    All this to say that yesterday my husband sent me this comic and I immediately replied “that’s me”.

    (A good percentage of his messages to me consist of Foxes in Love comics, and they are ALWAYS incredibly accurate)