• flicker@lemmy.world
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    A lady confessed to killing her first husband.

    She said that he was wonderful, kind, caring, right up until she had her firstborn. Then he struck her.

    She said she killed him (while he was sleeping), buried him in the garden, and that night she moved “the next state over.” She married a different man (who claimed he fathered her firstborn) and they had many years and many other children together.

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      someone ran up the numbers once and one effect no one talks about with the availability of divorce is how fast the male spouse death rate went down. Seriously, I think it was something staggering like a 75% drop.

      There have always been a lot of women who won’t put up with that bullshit.

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          lotta falling off ladders in the olden days. Something those project 25 “let’s remove no fault divorce” fuckers might need to remember…

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            Yeah, the desire to relegate women to reproductive and domestic labor and deny the freedom to leave can really be reframed as opportunity and motive. I for one would be terrified to have someone who wants to leave me cooking my food and sharing my bed, that’s like two of the easiest ways to kill or debilitate someone.

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              The only realistic solution is to hire a taster to ensure all your foods are poison free. Finally the right can live out that age-old Medieval feudal fantasy.

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                Yeah, because the alternative, you know, being a decent and nice human being is souch worse!

                I never understood those that need violence to get what they want. More flies with honey than vinegar and such…

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          Found it!

          https://www.encyclopedia.com/reference/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/when-women-kill-their-partners

          It was a 71.4% drop btw

          Figure 9.3 shows that the number of males killed by intimate partners dropped by 71.4% between 1976 and 2002. Researchers and advocates for battered women attribute this dramatic decline to the widespread availability of support services for women, including shelters, crisis counseling, hotlines, and legal measures such as protection and restraining orders. These services offer abused women options for escaping violence and abuse other than taking their partners’ lives. Other factors that may have contributed to the decline are the increased ease of obtaining divorce and the generally improved economic conditions for women.

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      Me and a few guys used to go to nursing homes once a month and play old music for them. Elvis, some old gospel, old country, Bobby Darin, just whatever they wanted. We got to be friends with the residents.

      One of the guys told me the story of how his first wife beat him with a frying pan while he was asleep and he ran off to Mexico to get away. He eventually married another woman who had poisoned her first husband because he beat her right after their first kid was born. They were married for 70 years when she died and ended up with 4 kids total.

      Apparently that was pretty common at one time. I do not know whether he deserved to be hit with a skillet or not, but if he did he never acted up again because he knows he’d have been killed.