This is true, but unfortunately, some people dont understand this and think an apology is a ‘get out of jail free’ card to do whatever they want, and no one can get mad at them.
Likewise, if someone genuinely apologizes and tries to make it right, stop shitting on them. Too many people view apologies as weakness and admitting fault for events that are sometimes out of your hands.
You’re right, I should have mentioned I am referring to the same repeated bad behavior and people who keep apologizing for it again and again as if that makes it all better, rather than making meaningful change. An apology is meaningless without action to back it up.
And you bet that forgiveness benefits you the most. It doesn’t. If someone says sorry rarely, never changes, and you are taught to keep being compassionate… you are going to lose your ability to care about people. Better to stay alert, because that person will hurt you again.
This is true, but unfortunately, some people dont understand this and think an apology is a ‘get out of jail free’ card to do whatever they want, and no one can get mad at them.
Likewise, if someone genuinely apologizes and tries to make it right, stop shitting on them. Too many people view apologies as weakness and admitting fault for events that are sometimes out of your hands.
You’re right, I should have mentioned I am referring to the same repeated bad behavior and people who keep apologizing for it again and again as if that makes it all better, rather than making meaningful change. An apology is meaningless without action to back it up.
And you bet that forgiveness benefits you the most. It doesn’t. If someone says sorry rarely, never changes, and you are taught to keep being compassionate… you are going to lose your ability to care about people. Better to stay alert, because that person will hurt you again.
Well, ‘forgive’ and ‘forget’ aren’t the same. ;-)