• curiousaur@reddthat.com
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    10 months ago

    Or just want to talk to someone? Why are we simultaneously normalizing anti-social behavior and wondering why the young people are so unhappy?

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      10 months ago

      Unless you know for sure that the other person is legitimately bored, sitting around not doing anything, imposing yourself on someone like this is rude.

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      10 months ago

      Why not text ‘wanna talk sometime’? A call demands an immediate response, so reserve it for things that demand immediate responses.

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        10 months ago

        No it doesn’t. Just don’t pick up the phone. If it’s important they’ll text you to pick up the phone. There’s a reason the terms “phone tag” and “screening calls” exist.

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          10 months ago

          I’m sorry, what’s “phone tag” and “screening calls”? Never heard of any of that.

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          10 months ago

          But you don’t know the relative importance of what they’re telling vs what you’re doing. A text gives more information than just seeing your receiving a call.

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            10 months ago

            Damn dude, it’s not that big a deal. Just don’t pick up the phone. If it’s important they’ll find a way to let you know.

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              10 months ago

              You will feel terrible if you don’t pick up the phone and it turns out to be something important, like being able to hear the last words of your grandma or something.

              Texting is a lot less of a big deal than a phone call is.

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      10 months ago

      Maybe this is just me and my circle but if someone just wants to talk I’d typically expect that more over discord or something like that rather than phone call unless they’re older.

      Other than that phone call is for urgent stuff or something that’s going to have a lot of back and forth and is quicker pver phone.

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      10 months ago

      So when you “just want to talk” you call someone out of the blue and just expect them to stop what they’re doing and have a little chat? I had a friend like that and I hated it because they always called at the worst moments so I wouldn’t pick up and then they assumed I disliked them and played the victim by a mutual friend. That’s when I actually started disliking them. So don’t randomly call people please thank you.

      Also texting someone instead of talking isn’t antisocial behaviour. You can say as much in a text as you can say in a call and the other person can reply to your text and continue doing what they’re doing at the same time.

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        10 months ago

        You absolutely cannot say in a text what you can in a call

        You can multitask while texting, true, but that is antisocial. Social, is having a conversation.